This is for you. And me. And every mom you know. Even if you are not a stay at home mom, you can benefit from these tips.
I’m pretty sure we have all gone through moments or even stages of self doubt and losing pride as a mom, causing us to feel burnt out in some way. We all have at some time.
Try these tips to avoid the stress of stay at home mom burnout.
6 Ways to Avoid Stay At Home Mom Burnout:
1. Don’t be afraid to try new things.
I live by routines and schedules. It makes life run smoothly, especially when it comes to parenting and keeping your family happy. But if you and your children have a schedule down so well that it’s getting repetitive and dull, don’t be afraid to mix it up a little.
A few ideas to try experiment with new schedules would be:
- Try switching morning play time with afternoon outside time.
- Or maybe designate Thursday afternoons for crafting, Friday nights for homemade pizza night.
- Try giving baths at a different time and see if it goes better than before. If not, stick to your old routine.
- Try to think of adding a activity that will make both you and the kids excited to do on a certain day of the week or a certain time of day.
Also try new places and spaces!
- Check out a new park in your neighborhood.
- Take the kids to a new sandwich shop.
- Re-arrange your living room for a fresh new look.
- Or rearrange your kid’s rooms! This will be fun, new, freshness for you and your kids.
Related: Tips for rearranging your kids’s rooms can be found here.
2. Get out and about.
While you are home with the kids during the day, get out of the house. Take the kids to a park and play. Literally play with them. Run, slide, swing! Don’t just sit on the bench and waste time on your phone. Go to a mall and window shop.
A change of scenery every once in a while is good for you and the kids. Sometimes being cooped up in the house for too long can bring negative moods.
Try to plan something fun for the entire family on weekends. Getting out of the house will be fresh air, fresh scenery, and a fresh mind. It doesn’t have to be something extravagant, even just going for a drive around a new neighborhood can be a stress reliever.
3. Focus on you.
Schedule time to get away from your kids for awhile. Date nights with your husband, girls nights, going to the gym, or even just a grocery shopping trip alone can leave you feeling refreshed.
Try a few fun things for yourself to unwind like:
Take the kids to a babysitter and go back home, to do things by yourself. Clean in peace. Sit down and put your feet up and listen to the silence, exercise, or pray.
Or even have the kids go to a baby sitter and go on an outing with your husband for the day. I really believe having time to be alone with your spouse for a little ‘reset’ is healthy and beneficial for your mood and entire family’s happiness.
Come up with a new hobby or even start a business! Find something other than tending to your kids to be a fun ‘you’ thing.
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4. Do things with the kids that will make you feel good and proud.
Sometimes stay at home mom burnout can happen because of a lack of pride and accomplishment. It so easy to fall into the slump of “why me”, or “I can’t get anything accomplished”.
This is a bad thing to start, and try to avoid letting yourself fall into these feelings. Because you can and do accomplish so much! Sometimes it makes me feel better to add things to my to-do list that I have already done just to cross them off! Whatever you have to do to help yourself feel better, do it!
Do things on purpose that you know will give you and the kids feelings of pride. Do things that you know will make you feel happy, even if it’s not on your schedule or other things need done.
Instead of trying to clean the entire house at one time, focus on one room. When you get done with that room, take a look at it and say “there!”. Then move to the next. Teach your kids about things around the house, so when they do it on their own, both of you will feel proud and happy.
5. Prepare ahead of time and be in control.
I have learned as a mom that I get the most stressed when things are happening last minute. Like trying to find that missing shoe five minutes before the bus comes. Or forgetting to send lunch money to school. Or being late to a doctor’s appointment.
Because this has happened to me many times, I try to plan ahead now. I write a to do list everyday. I usually have our family meals planned weekly. I live in my daily planner so I know what important things are coming up and I can prepare for them. I’m also simplifying our things this year to decrease stress.
I know sometimes things just won’t work out the way you plan and want them to. Sometimes life happens, and that’s understandable. But it’s best to plan ahead.
- Have a schedule of times and dates for special things like school, work schedules, deadlines, or family events. If you know something is coming up, be ready for it ahead of time.
- Get the kids ready ahead of time so you are not running around and rushing. Get their clothes, shoes, backpack, and papers ready for school the night before and put them all in the same place.
- Set schedules and rules for your home and implement them. Set an example so your kids follow and know you are serious about it. They will eventually learn to plan ahead as well and this will help everyone to feel more relaxed as a family.
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6. Take care of yourself.
This is probably the most important tip for any mother to read. We have got to take care of ourselves!
We spend all of our time worrying about taking care of our kids that sometimes we forget to take care of ourselves. If you skip caring for yourself, you will eventually skip caring about your emotional well being, which can easily lead to stay at home mom burnout.
I really encourage all moms to make sure they are taking care of their bodies by:
- Cutting out junk food and pop. It will fog your mind and negatively impact your mood, plus affecting your overall health.
- Getting good nutrients and antioxidants are really important, so we must eat our fruits and veggies. Seriously. I have learned this!
- Also- the big thing. WATER. Drink, drink, drink. I have made it a habit to take in more water lately, and I can tell a big difference! My body knows when I even get slightly dehydrated and I get head aches. Being dehydrated can also cause depression, and make you feel unmotivated and sluggish, which will just accelerate stay at home mom burnout.
Remember- your kids watch you as an influence to them so always remember to set good examples of healthy eating and drinking! I love to add a few drops of Grapefruit essential oil to my water for better taste as well as energy!
On a serious note though, if you feel like you are really depressed, crying a lot, or experiencing bad mood swings, please talk to your doctor. Don’t be afraid or embarrassed or ashamed, it’s not your fault if you are feeling this way. Your doctor will help you. Your health is important for you but also for your family.